If there is one thing our clients wish we could do for them, that we definitely can not, would be putting together their guest list and addresses. Not only is it tough to get the list down to your desired guest count, it is also tough to wade through the long list of proper etiquette on how to address your guests on the outer and inner envelope of your invitation! So many brides are combining newer, less formal ways of addressing their guests while others are trying to stay true to old-school etiquette rules. Below are a few ways to find a happy medium between the two styles and hopefully a few tips that answer those common addressing questions!
Addressing Tips 101
- Do address all of your guests with the proper salutation – Mr., Miss, Mr. and Mrs., etc.
- If you have a medical doctor on your list you would need to spell out the word “Doctor”. Only if your guest has a PhD or is not a medical doctor would you use the abbreviation “Dr.”.
- If you are including children on the invitation you are to only list them on the inner envelope, second line, and generally by age (0ldest to youngest).
- You do not need to use a comma when listing a guest as a III, IV, etc. You would however use a comma when addressing someone as a Senior, Junior, etc. (i.e. Mr. John Doe Smith IV or Mr. John Doe Smith, Junior)
- For a save the date you may list names a bit more informally on an invitation and save their formal name for the invitation itself. (i.e. save the date could read “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” but the invitation would be “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe Smith IV).
- If you are inviting a couple where the wife is a doctor you would like the woman on the first line and the man on the second line…even if they are married. (i.e. the first line would read “Doctor Jane Doe Smith” and the second line would read “Mr. John Doe Smith”).
- If you are inviting a couple that is not married to your event you always list the woman on the first line and the man on the second line. (i.e. the first line would read “Miss Jane Doe Smith” and the second line would read “Mr. John Doe Smith”).
- If you have a married couple on your list where the wife did not take the husbands last name you would list them on separate lines but you would include the word “and” before the husbands name on the second line. (i.e. the first line would read “Mrs. Jane Doe Jones” and the second line would read “and Mrs. John Doe Smith”).
- Any guest on your list who is a Judge would be listed at “The Honorable” as opposed to “Judge” as their salutation.
- When deciding on your salutation for an unmarried woman it is best to use “Miss” for any woman under the age of 18 while you would use “Ms.” for anyone over the age of 18 who is single.
xo – Keely
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